Not many of us seem equipped to deal with stuck emotions. It’s a pity because I observe that these are the cause of a lot of suffering for so many people. I would say that its virtually impossible to grow up on this physical plane without experiencing at least some hurts, abuse, trauma and what have you. Because most of us do not have the necessary tools to rid ourselves of these emotions, they can eventually build up and subdue the energetic function of our bodies. See “Trauma and the monster”.
This can lead to physical illness and I’m reasonably certain that it can also cause many conditions we may refer to as mental health issues. Of course I have tried to explain already that how the monster reacts to these traumas will also be a factor in how they manifest. Some people may become angry and abusive, others may become depressed and anxious. Either way the root cause is an imbalance of energies within the body.
It would appear that some people seem relatively unscathed by stuck emotions. I can’t say whether these fortunate people perhaps are less sensitive than some. I use the word sensitive in its proper context here. You see all human beings have the innate ability to sense other peoples energies, and this too, unless we work with our energy, can lead to problems within us. I would liken this to the equivalent of having a radio that can tune in to multiple frequencies at the same time; noisy and unpleasant!
I would venture that those seemingly unaffected simply have a very developed ego i.e. are in a very deep state of control by the monster. This virtually guarantees that emotions will remain stuck. The monster is very reluctant to deal with anything real and troublesome!
Isn’t this a good thing I hear you ask? I mean, who wants to deal with all their shit right? Well, I hear you! On this path I have certainly expressed extreme anger and frustration at having even started, and even more at friends and family who seem blissfully unaware of the house of cards that their monster is busy building for them! There have been times where I wished I had remained ignorant to it all.
I guess for me it was like taking the red pill (Yes, it’s a reference to “The Matrix”). The stark reality that I was faced with was not necessarily better than the one I had known before, In fact in many ways it was worse. Very uncomfortable for a while but I could see the reality as it was. I could see my issues and start to fix them. The monster no longer controlled me, what a reality to wake up to!
So why did I do it, why did I start to attend to my issues of stuck emotions and monster control? It was a majorly stressful life event, followed by a fair few more. I will write more on all of this but for now see “The Crumbling”. I was forced to go through this really, I don’t feel like I had much of a choice.
For those who haven’t come to this point of a major breakdown, why should we bother with trying to release our stuck emotions at all?
Many reasons! I mentioned above that the monster, metaphorically speaking, is building a house of cards for us. I say this because he certainly built one for me and when those cards at the base where blown away, the rest of my fragile ego structure came crashing down. I would say that for every trauma and stuck emotion, the monster builds a fragile fortress around it. The more hurt and grievances that come, the higher and stronger this tower is built, until all we have is this framework that dictates how we respond to events in life.
I see so many people, so deep in their monster/ego framework. This is something I have found most difficult on my path of real healing. Family members that are suffering without even knowing it and long-term friends that I find it more difficult to communicate with as I find I’m less inclined to try and converse with someone's ego/monster these days.
I digressed a little there, let’s come back to stuck emotions. These can and will affect the way we communicate, how we are seen and how we carry ourselves day-to-day. What I’ll say on a personal note here is that as I continue my path of real healing, those closest to me have noted that I don’t seem to have those “sharp edges” that I used to. You see, stuck emotions were those sharp edges. They were created by those stuck emotions and if a personal interaction threatened to touch those little emotional mine fields, out came the sharpness, the ego/monster defence mechanism, so I could avoid going there. And this is where we find so much dysfunction in people. We cant have real discussions often we cant confront our stuck emotions, because the threat of this house of cards falling feels like disaster to our monsters. So is the root cause of so much misbehaviour, anger, sarcasm, abuse… all likely coming from monsters who just have to keep that house of cards standing!
I have already talked a little about imbalanced energy and how old traumas can block our flow. I wont discuss in this post the nature of the energy flow within us because to be honest, I don’t entirely understand it myself. I will attempt to write about it in a separate post see “The energetic body”. For now I will say that energy can get stuck within us and when there is an excess or build up it can become explosive. This is often released as anger, this happens when there is enough stuck energy to blow through the blockages. Anger can be a very destructive force and certainly in my life it has had undesirable consequences to me and those around me. These days I do still get angry but I usually express it without making it someone else's problem. As I’ve worked on my stuck emotions I have observed that I am less prone to anger and indeed, when I am triggered I can observe it and a little space has crept in so I can choose how to deal with it. Of course, many people wont have any choice in their anger, and the consequences can be devastating.
So, in summation, we must learn methods by which to work with our energy. Thereby we can keep a smoothly flowing energetic self. This will help us to become balanced and flowing in everyday life and less likely to store emotion when faced with unpleasant experiences. Working on our stuck emotions can and will lead to real results whereby we can operate from a balanced energy state and importantly relate to those around us in a more compassionate and healthy manner.
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