One of the interesting side effects of the energy work I have been taught is quite a natural progression to becoming more objective.
To put it simply, being objective is seeing things as they really are, and not so much how our egos want them to be.
I find that an awful lot of suffering we cause for ourselves comes from battling with the objective truth.
I fall into this trap all the time still. What I (or rather my ego) wanted was to do a bit of work, maybe a couple of years tops, and then there to be nothing but lollipops and rainbows. Looking for some sort of spiritual bliss and a life free from problems…
Ha ha ha ha ha… as I write this I’m shaking my head at my former self.
In fact I would say I’ve faced the most difficult challenges since starting the spiritual work. Now my goals are clearer, to face the challenges, release the emotions, come back into balance and keep moving.
Doing the spiritual work helps us to prepare for challenges. It is so easy to get rattled and knocked around in this world full of people struggling with their own particular sets of troubles. This gives rise to some very unsavoury behaviour at times, it’s almost like suffering is a communicable disease. If we don't equip ourselves with skills and disciplines to handle difficult circumstances, people, emotions, then we can have quite a rough time of it.
Being objective makes so many situations so much easier, because if we have worked to release old wounds and traumas, then we simply cannot come from a place of hurt... because it isn't there!! We wont be so emotional, we wont get triggered as easily, and these things can really "muddy the waters" when it comes to things like work, relationships, disagreements etc.
See "Relationships and Trauma" (Link to come)
Being objective can also really help us in the ongoing battle with our inner judge (monster/ego/whatever). I'll give you an example. I'd say one of my deepest wounds was a feeling of never being good enough. I still have work to do on this. Although things have improved with my grief and addictions in the last few months, I am still struggling to do the work I need to do with my energy disciplines. However, thats a story for the personal side of my blog.
See "Rejoining the path" (Link to come)
What I observe now is when the judge weighs in with its usual miserable allegations, apart from just saying "stop" to end the diatribe in it's tracks, I find that now, the more powerful objective side of me can go... "well actually you just did that job and you did amazingly" or perhaps "that difficult situation you were in today you handled well and made things better". This is all instead of what would have happened up to a couple of years ago when I'd have just let the monster convince me that I was indeed a useless human being on every level (that would have been awfully unobjective - even back then).
The best time to start all of this work is before the going gets tough,
for it is better to be a warrior in a garden than a gardener in a war.
In many ways, the spiritual path is a bit like being a warrior, except that we are doing battle with our own evil, our own difficult emotions, our own hurt and trauma. It’s certainly not for the faint of heart, but it does bring its own rewards, and being more objective is a huge part of that.
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